A helpful reframe for insomnia is: “I am not sleeping and I should be” versus “I am not sleeping and that is simply what’s happening.” This is helpful for life in general, and is typically preached by Buddhists and Stoics, though I think acceptance is probably a universal virtue when applied in the right context. 2 There are things happening, and adding a commentary about what “should” be the case or not is basically never helpful.
It might be helpful to think about what you want and how to get there, but even then, a desire can only meaningfully exist while accepting that the current situation is what it is, even if you wish to change it in one way or another.
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2024-12-14